Where I stand with PMs

Lex · Post by **Lex** » Fri May 29, 2009 5:00 pm

I've mentioned this before and thought I'd like to restate it. I get the occasional PM. I greatly enjoy most of them and I really appreciated some thoughtful ones that I received just today. I replied to those folks and thanked them. I'm keeping the contents to myself, as I generally do.

Now and then, though, I get a fairly weird one. As I see it, I have no obligation of any sort to keep the message private. The sender sent the recipient an unsolicited message. The recipient entered into no agreement to keep the contents private. Anytime I receive a particularly bizarre PM, I consider posting it, just so the rest of the forum can share in the weirdness. Just wanted to suggest that no one send me anything in a PM that they wouldn't want posted on the forum.

bevm · Post by **bevm** » Fri May 29, 2009 8:29 pm

Good for you Lex. I agree. If you can't say it to my face on the open forum then don't bother sending me a nasty PM.
Questions about St. John, villas, etc. are always welcomed on the other hand.

flip-flop · Post by **flip-flop** » Fri May 29, 2009 8:46 pm

Ditto! I will say I have not gotten a single ugly PM. Surprising, I know! I have gotten a few pms from those who may seem to be my political/ideological opposite making peace and being very polite. Those I very much appreciate. I also get a lot of supportive, thanks for fighting the good fight PMs.

Perhaps it is a sign of sickness, but I enjoy the discourse and the back and forth. Usually it is intellectually stimulating, sometimes it's a bit scary. Some posters I disregard out of hand and don't even read their comments because they do nothing but inflame. I have from time to time had to expand my way of thinking and been able to at least see the other end of the spectrum. In some ways I am more firm in my original beliefs and in other ways I have been able to adapt and evolve my ways of thinking. I like the intellectual challenge but I see no challenge in "black is black, white is white...the end" but that's just me.

Blind faith is fine for some, it just doesn't work for me.

DELETED · Post by **DELETED** » Fri May 29, 2009 9:34 pm

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Pete (Mr. Marcia) · Post by **Pete (Mr. Marcia)** » Sat May 30, 2009 11:04 am

See, we have that in common. "Wasted and Can't Find My Way Home" is one of my favorite songs.

stjdeb · Post by **stjdeb** » Mon Jun 01, 2009 7:42 am

Pete (Mr. Marcia) wrote:See, we have that in common. "Wasted and Can't Find My Way Home" is one of my favorite songs.

Me too!

toes in the sand · Post by **toes in the sand** » Mon Jun 01, 2009 2:30 pm

Lex wrote:I've mentioned this before and thought I'd like to restate it. I get the occasional PM. I greatly enjoy most of them and I really appreciated some thoughtful ones that I received just today. I replied to those folks and thanked them. I'm keeping the contents to myself, as I generally do.

Now and then, though, I get a fairly weird one. As I see it, I have no obligation of any sort to keep the message private. The sender sent the recipient an unsolicited message. The recipient entered into no agreement to keep the contents private. Anytime I receive a particularly bizarre PM, I consider posting it, just so the rest of the forum can share in the weirdness. Just wanted to suggest that no one send me anything in a PM that they wouldn't want posted on the forum.

I wouldn't think of PM'ing anything that I wouldn't post in a forum. But then again I wouldn't call a forum member a troll and not have the guts to either stand behind my statement or apologize.

Gromit · Post by **Gromit** » Mon Jun 01, 2009 3:05 pm

Lex-- I say post it.... unless of course it was MY PM

toes in the sand · Post by **toes in the sand** » Mon Jun 01, 2009 3:30 pm

Gromit wrote:Lex-- I say post it.... unless of course it was MY PM

Did Lex say that he had a bizarre PM or just iterate a notice that he would consider posting it if he recieved one? If he has one I also say post it.

Connie · Post by **Connie** » Tue Jun 02, 2009 8:40 am

I'm just wondering what you mean by a "wierd" PM.

I myself, wouldn't post a private message, no matter what it had it in.

That's why it's call a private message and I also think it would stir things up on the board.

But that's just me.

lprof · Post by **lprof** » Tue Jun 02, 2009 9:12 am

Connie, I agree with you...totally!

California Girl · Post by **California Girl** » Tue Jun 02, 2009 10:42 am

I tend to agree with Connie that a private message is just that.... a private message. But if someone is using the PM system to launch personal attacks behind the scenes, then I say post it. I posted one when I was ambushed behind the scenes because I thought it was a chicken shit underhanded attack and in my opinion, I thought everyone should know what this person was doing "in the background". Attacking someone through a PM is NOT cool.

RickG · Post by **RickG** » Tue Jun 02, 2009 10:51 am

I just ignore ignorant PM's and posts. Responding just encourages the cretins.

Now, if I could just figure out how to make a living on the "Plan my vacation for me" <edit>PM</edit" questions....

Cheers, RickG

Gromit · Post by **Gromit** » Tue Jun 02, 2009 11:04 am

Rick-- sadly, I was thinking the same thing on the "plan my vacation for me thing."

I don't mind being helpful.. but sheesh... Google can be your best friend.

Note to newbies... we aren't travel agents ... it's usually helpful to have at least ATTEMPTED to do some research before asking the forum a question.

mindehankins · Post by **mindehankins** » Tue Jun 02, 2009 11:09 am

usvi-on-line