I truly do need Facebook for Dumbies - educate me please....

PA Girl · Post by **PA Girl** » Wed Oct 21, 2009 2:46 pm

So my friends are pestering me to do Facebook.

I know NOTHING about it.

A few things I was wondering about -

My friends are all excited about "so and so finding me and we connected again."

Well, I have a few so and sos that I don't necessarily want to see information about me.

Can anyone see my page or do I need to approve people so they can see it?

If I were to use my page to post pictures and such could someone, like my mom, look at them? Would see need a Facebook account too? (I am talking about family pictures that I want her to see.)

mbw1024 · Post by **mbw1024** » Wed Oct 21, 2009 2:56 pm

you have to set your security settings so that people see what you want them to see. once you are on there you have to friend people and they have to friend you back. once you are connected you can see each other's stuff like photos etc.
you can also ignore a friend request (ignore is an actual option) and then that person doesn't become your friend and doesn't see your stuff.

that's a very basic explanation! LOL

Maggy · Post by **Maggy** » Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:15 pm

You can post photos on your page and if your mom wants to see them you can send the link to her. FB provides that link for you. She doesn't have to have a FB account.

I have sent a link for my mom to some photos I have on FB as she doesn't have any interest in getting a FB account. It works fine.

The good thing with FB is that you decide yourself who can see what.

Maggy

California Girl · Post by **California Girl** » Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:16 pm

You can send a link to your pictures and the person you send it to can see them, but nothing else. I sent a bunch of links to my sister and it worked great. (my sis is not a FB person)

mbw1024 · Post by **mbw1024** » Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:27 pm

forgot about that link, sorry! never used it

liamsaunt · Post by **liamsaunt** » Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:30 pm

Once you create your page, you can choose your privacy levels. Basically, you can share your stuff with everyone, just your friends, or your friends as well as their friends.

Every time you add photos, etc. you will be given the same options for who can see them. So you can add things to your page that you don't necessarily want to share with all of your friends. You can block your friends from seeing photos--either some of them, or all. You can also individually block people from reading your wall posts. I mainly use the block feature to prevent one of my really annoying distant relatives from seeing my vacation photos...because she always whines about how she never gets to travel (though there's nothing stopping her from doing so).

There is a way to share your facebook photos with people who are not on facebook. I've never actually done this, but it comes up an an option when you create a new album. Maybe someone else can add more information.

When you set up your page you also want to set your notifications to a level that you are comfortable with. I think the default is that you get an email every time one of your friends posts something (!). I have mine set so that I never get any facebook notifications to my email account.

promoguy · Post by **promoguy** » Wed Oct 21, 2009 3:43 pm

One thing to also consider when you sign up and this depends on how anonymous you want to be to the outside world not only those 'friends' you don't want to be 'friends' with.

You have to use your real name and you have to use a real email address. You may or may not want to use a picture. I like folks with a picture, even if it one of their dog.

It is quite possible to google a name and see it come up as a part of facebook. Even though whoever does that search cannot read your information, they may be able to see your picture.

It all depends on how below the radar you want to be.

XOXO · Post by **XOXO** » Wed Oct 21, 2009 4:08 pm

you can also ignore a friend request (ignore is an actual option) and then that person doesn't become your friend and doesn't see your stuff.

My kids told me that if I click on ignore that person will know that I didn't want to be their friend. So, I just leave them in my account and do not click ignore or approve.

Is that correct??

Gina

Maggy · Post by **Maggy** » Wed Oct 21, 2009 4:13 pm

GinaXOXO wrote:
you can also ignore a friend request (ignore is an actual option) and then that person doesn't become your friend and doesn't see your stuff.
My kids told me that if I click on ignore that person will know that I didn't want to be their friend. So, I just leave them in my account and do not click ignore or approve.

Is that correct??

Gina

If the person doesn't accept your friend request, it's kind of easy to understand they don't want to be your FB friend anyway. So I don't see the big difference if the person clicks ignore or just doesn't accept.

Maggy

PA Girl · Post by **PA Girl** » Wed Oct 21, 2009 4:24 pm

Maggy wrote:
GinaXOXO wrote:
you can also ignore a friend request (ignore is an actual option) and then that person doesn't become your friend and doesn't see your stuff.
My kids told me that if I click on ignore that person will know that I didn't want to be their friend. So, I just leave them in my account and do not click ignore or approve.

Is that correct??

Gina
If the person doesn't accept your friend request, it's kind of easy to understand they don't want to be your FB friend anyway. So I don't see the big difference if the person clicks ignore or just doesn't accept.

Maggy

Argh! It like a being a freshman and wondering if you will be welcome to sit at the cool-kid table in the cafeteria all over again!

What am I getting myself into?

XOXO · Post by **XOXO** » Wed Oct 21, 2009 4:30 pm

Argh! It like a being a freshman and wondering if you will be welcome to sit at the cool-kid table in the cafeteria all over again!

What am I getting myself into?

Ha! That is funny.

I don't click on ignore because there are people who I get along with---but really don't care to be in touch--so I just don't click on anything. Then they will never know that I am not that into them.

Gina

bubblybrenda · Post by **bubblybrenda** » Sun Oct 25, 2009 5:31 pm

LiamsAunt: Can you please explain how you do this?

"You can block your friends from seeing photos--either some of them, or all. You can also individually block people from reading your wall posts."

StJohnRuth · Post by **StJohnRuth** » Mon Oct 26, 2009 6:35 am

Here is an article from the NY Times that people may find useful:

http://www.nytimes.com/external/readwri ... 93.html?em

- Ruth

soxfan22 · Post by **soxfan22** » Mon Oct 26, 2009 9:07 am

bubblybrenda wrote:LiamsAunt: Can you please explain how you do this?

"You can block your friends from seeing photos--either some of them, or all. You can also individually block people from reading your wall posts."

Hey Brenda...When you get into one of your photo albums on FB, click on *edit photos*, then click *edit info*, then, next to *privacy*, you will see a drop down menu asking you *who can see this?*...

That drop down gives you a few options:

*Everyone*
*My Networks and Friends*
*Only people at your network* - for me, this is my employer group
*Friends of Friends*
*Only Friends*
*Customize*

Oh, you can also do all of this when you build a new photo album, instead of doing it on an existing one. Just start at the *edit info* step.

I'm not sure how to block people from seeing your wall posts.

bubblybrenda · Post by **bubblybrenda** » Mon Oct 26, 2009 3:13 pm

Soxfan22: Thanks!

Can you please explain. If I create a Network for "Work" and I slot my co-workers in that Network, and if I edit the Privacy so only my Friends can see the album, does that mean my Work network CANNOT see the photos? That's what I'd like to do - keep certain photos private from co-workers.

Thank you.

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