I lost my Son

[2FarNorth]

Mary words cannot express my deepest sympathy for your loss. God bless.

[ccasebolt]

My deepest sympathy - you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

--Chris

[Tiffany]

Mary,
I am sending hugs and strength your way and hope that lots of angels will surround all of your family as you try to get through this devastating time. I'll be keeping you in my prayers.

[Bill in Va]

My Dear...May the good Lord bring you comfort and healing. My heart pains for you and your family. I see every day the loss of our only child a son and now as I read your posting I am frozen again. Speak his name. People will go out of the way not to, afraid it will upset you if they say his name. It helps us so much when we talk about our son and I hope it will help you cope...wow what a word that is..some times it just doesn't work but tell folks to talk about him. I can't give you a path of cure but I can say that doing things in his memory helps. When you are ready please give us a call...540-347-5898 is the home number. We don't grieve for you, we grieve with you...your forum family....Bill and Sandie King....God bless

[Mary L]

Well, it has been 5 months today that my son Bernie died. I want to Thank all of you for your thoughts and prayers to my family. It has been very difficult time and it just seems to get worse some days. I have been going to a grief group and I find it very helpful.

My daughter and son are going pretty good. And my grandaughter is just amazing, she is so smart. She is now 22 months. She used to call Bernie...... Papa. And I talk about him to her all of the time. She watches a DVD that my cousin made with pictures of him.

I all so want to Thank all of you that made a donation to Taelyr's Scholarship Fund. That was so nice of you to do that. DeeDee I know that you were the one to start it and I really appreciate it.

Just one more thing, I LOVE STJ so much and I can't go until I pay off Bernie's funeral bill. So, the other day my daughter told me that she and her boyfriend are taking my son and I to STJ next year. I was so excited. They are paying for the villa. She's a great kid. Well, I think I deserve to go after the year that I'm having.

Mary

[waterguy]

Hi
Things do get a little better. It has been almost a year since my wife died. I don't cry as often. But I'll be walking thru the mall or driving and tears will come to my eyes I now stop and try to figure out why Its been either her favorite song on thradio that i wasn't even listening to or some body walks by with her perfume on. When your there say hi to her her ashes are at hawksnest.
Takce care Tom

[Mary L]

Tom, I didn't know that your wife died, I'm sorry for your loss. That's pretty cool that her ashes are at Hawksnest cuz that's one of my favorite beaches. Bernie's Grandfather want his ashes at Trunk Bay, that's his favorite. It's so true about songs on the radio. I start to cry when I hear the music he listened to. I still go upstairs to smell his clothes.
My life will never be the same, he took a piece of me with him.

[VaGirl]

Hi Mary, it's nice to hear from you. We all continue to hope that each day gets a little better. And I'm so happy to hear that you will be making a return trip to St John - here's hoping that thinking about that return trip next year will help make each day a little brighter.

[Maggy]

Mary - I'm so very sorry for your loss. Can't imagine what you have to go thru. I think it's hard losing my dad recently, but losing a child is not the order it's suppose to happen. My thoughts are with you.

[flip-flop]

Mary it is so strange to me that my precious son, who we almost lost in utero, was born just one day after you lost your son. Maybe there's some cosmic connection there. Having faced the potential but never the reality of it, I just really can not imagine.

My Max has been laid back/STJ style since birth, he is just the most mellow little guy. He wakes up smiling every day and teaches me a lot about how to approach life. For the first few months I fretted and worried everyday over him looking for something to be wrong. Finally I decided to just let it be, to know that most likely nothing is wrong and if something is my goal is to enjoy every second we have with him and know that nothing we do can change what is meant to be.

I do hope you continue to heal and move forward (you will never move on, as how can you from a child). I know STJ will help. It is a magical place.

[snorkelqueen]

Mary, know that we all hold you in our hearts and prayers. I am so very sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you.
Faith

[St. John Lover]

Mary,

Somehow I missed your original posting back in February. I had some intensive surgery & was a long time recovering about that time. But I just read through everything, crying while I was reading.

I am SO sorry for your loss. What a handsome young man, and he looked so happy to be with you in St. John. Thank God that you had that time with him.

But I'm sure day by day, it's still a mental & emotional discipline to focus on what you did have and not on what you could have. I'm praying for you and your family. What a dear & thoughtful daughter, to enable you to get back to St. John. If you feel comfortable doing so, please post your travel dates so we can pray specifically for you on those days to have an extraordinarily blessed time.

He is with you.

[Xislandgirl]

Mary- It is so nice to see you on the board and even greater to here that you have a trip planned.

Email me when you are up for getting together for a drink or a cup of coffee. I need to hit Stew Leonards soon so I will be in the area.

[b-as-u-r]

I just got back from my evening walk and for whatever reason was thinking to myself, I wonder whatever happened with that poor woman who lost her son a few months back. Wow, you can imagine my shock when I saw this thread brought current and your posts. Very,very strange. I can't even begin to imagine what you've been going through. I admire your strength and courage. I'm glad for you that you have a planned trip to STJ in your future. May each day be a little easier for you. Ali~

[howie's sunshine]

Mary,
I'm sorry to hear about your lose and you and your family will be in my prayers also. hang in.

sunshine(cindy)