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VENT over RSVPS
Totally agree with that. Have never missed the wedding whether it be at Church or elsewhere. I do think it's rude not to go but that's my opinion.Xislandgirl wrote: Just a comment about not attending the wedding but going to the reception...unless it is incredibly inconvenient, (kid's schedules, work, etc) the couple invited you to be a part of their day, not just dinner. Just my opinion, but if the couple has a receiving line at the church, they will notice and they do.
I understand your RSVP frustration.
Last weekend was our son’s first “real” birthday party where he invited friends and pre-school classmates. I let him decide who he wanted to invite, it was 10 kids total.
I got three immediate yeses from his closest friends.
None of the other parents responded either way, which really surprised me. I was raised that if an invitation asks for an RSVP, you accept or say thanks but no thanks, you would never just ignore it.
Then I sort of stepped in it, so to speak, the day before the party.
I was at pre-school and one of the teachers asked me about the party.
During the course of the conversation, she asked how many I invited and I told her 10 children but only three responded and how I was just fine with that, a nice manageable number and I was able to plan some things that worked well for four children.
Immediately I could tell she was concerned and she then goes on to tell me that I should expect that parents who didn’t respond will drop their kids off anyway.
I share with her my feelings on that subject and said something along the lines I certainly hoped no on e would be that clueless that they would think it was ok to drop off a 4/5 year old without responding to the invitation.
Well guess what? The mother of two invitees was standing right behind me. She verbally stumbled around a bit and mumbled about how she fought to call me and she guessed they would not be able to come to the party after all.
A small part of me felt bad. Then it passed.
Last weekend was our son’s first “real” birthday party where he invited friends and pre-school classmates. I let him decide who he wanted to invite, it was 10 kids total.
I got three immediate yeses from his closest friends.
None of the other parents responded either way, which really surprised me. I was raised that if an invitation asks for an RSVP, you accept or say thanks but no thanks, you would never just ignore it.
Then I sort of stepped in it, so to speak, the day before the party.
I was at pre-school and one of the teachers asked me about the party.
During the course of the conversation, she asked how many I invited and I told her 10 children but only three responded and how I was just fine with that, a nice manageable number and I was able to plan some things that worked well for four children.
Immediately I could tell she was concerned and she then goes on to tell me that I should expect that parents who didn’t respond will drop their kids off anyway.
I share with her my feelings on that subject and said something along the lines I certainly hoped no on e would be that clueless that they would think it was ok to drop off a 4/5 year old without responding to the invitation.
Well guess what? The mother of two invitees was standing right behind me. She verbally stumbled around a bit and mumbled about how she fought to call me and she guessed they would not be able to come to the party after all.
A small part of me felt bad. Then it passed.
My simple solution is evites. I have a large annual crabfest (not a cheap or easy undertaking) every July.
The way I see it people have three options, Yes, No, Maybe. If they respond in any of those three reasonable ways, they stay on the list. If I get no response from them, they aren't on the list the next year.
This year I invited 35 people and I think 33 rsvp'd yes and came, 2 rsvp'd no.
Problem solved.
It takes NO effort to tell someone yes, no or maybe. If someone is not willing to put that effort forth I am not willing to invite them in the future. Simple as that.
The way I see it people have three options, Yes, No, Maybe. If they respond in any of those three reasonable ways, they stay on the list. If I get no response from them, they aren't on the list the next year.
This year I invited 35 people and I think 33 rsvp'd yes and came, 2 rsvp'd no.
Problem solved.
It takes NO effort to tell someone yes, no or maybe. If someone is not willing to put that effort forth I am not willing to invite them in the future. Simple as that.
