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Boston Mike
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Let’s say you agree to hit St. John on your own because your wife said to go ahead and do it (meaning, hello mcfly that means no and if you can’t figure it out then you’re a dumbass).
From this point to the time you leave your life will be hell. She will spit in your coffee. Drop your dinner on the floor and let it sit for more than 5 seconds, which is in complete violation of the 5 seconds rule. She will sprinkle cayenne pepper on your toilet paper and re-roll it for future use. I can go on and on with the things that may happen.
SERIOUSLY!
I know we all love this island, but there is a line in the sand that should not be crossed. It is called the priority/reality line. Given your situation as explained by you, that line is pretty thick. Even though the wife suggested that you go and does not want to stop you from doing your own thing, REALITY is that you will not have a good time. Why? You will spend the entire time thinking about your PRIORITIES. Now, as explained by you I do not think St. John is your priority.
You will get there my friend. Patience is the key thing. When you all get there, the wait will have made it that more special.
Just my honest opinion.
Think
From this point to the time you leave your life will be hell. She will spit in your coffee. Drop your dinner on the floor and let it sit for more than 5 seconds, which is in complete violation of the 5 seconds rule. She will sprinkle cayenne pepper on your toilet paper and re-roll it for future use. I can go on and on with the things that may happen.
SERIOUSLY!
I know we all love this island, but there is a line in the sand that should not be crossed. It is called the priority/reality line. Given your situation as explained by you, that line is pretty thick. Even though the wife suggested that you go and does not want to stop you from doing your own thing, REALITY is that you will not have a good time. Why? You will spend the entire time thinking about your PRIORITIES. Now, as explained by you I do not think St. John is your priority.
You will get there my friend. Patience is the key thing. When you all get there, the wait will have made it that more special.
Just my honest opinion.
Think
Life begins where the land ends!
this tread reminds me that the bride of 43+ yrs often tells me that "you just don't get it do you!" maybe something in man's makeup.
not directly on point but kinda like a email that's going around about men having better friends than women (though don't recall any of the gang here suggesting parafins was on track):
Proof that Men Have Better Friends...
Friendship among Women:
A woman didn't come home one night. The next morning she told her husband that she had slept over at a friend's house. The man called his wife's 10 best friends. None of them knew anything about it.
Friendship among Men:
A man didn't come home one night. The next morning he told his wife that he had slept over at a friend's house. The woman called her husband's 10 best friends. Eight confirmed that he had slept over, and two said he was still there.
peace,
papabou
not directly on point but kinda like a email that's going around about men having better friends than women (though don't recall any of the gang here suggesting parafins was on track):
Proof that Men Have Better Friends...
Friendship among Women:
A woman didn't come home one night. The next morning she told her husband that she had slept over at a friend's house. The man called his wife's 10 best friends. None of them knew anything about it.
Friendship among Men:
A man didn't come home one night. The next morning he told his wife that he had slept over at a friend's house. The woman called her husband's 10 best friends. Eight confirmed that he had slept over, and two said he was still there.
peace,
papabou
If you have the need to ask for opinions/support from the forum, in your heart of hearts, you already know what your decision should be.
Even if your wife said sincerely, "No honey, you go." you would feel guilty the whole time there. Let alone the length of time at home, between your return, and your tan fading.
In my marriage, I tend to be the partner that "sacrifices". Not because hubby is selfish, but because it's just the way it is. I can see myself telling him to go, and meaning it. BUT, I can also see me stewing inside, the whole time. And having to consistently remind myself that I told him to go.
As posted previously, I would take a hard look at the situation. If it would only cost say an additional $500 to take your wife along, and the money is not there for her, I would wait. The FIRST time something goes wrong in your house, like say the stove breaks, she's going to look at you with the look of "Well, had you not gone away, we could buy the self-cleaning stove"
I have been there and done that. Not fair to my hubby, I told him to go. Not fair to me, because this is the only time he listens.
Even if your wife said sincerely, "No honey, you go." you would feel guilty the whole time there. Let alone the length of time at home, between your return, and your tan fading.
In my marriage, I tend to be the partner that "sacrifices". Not because hubby is selfish, but because it's just the way it is. I can see myself telling him to go, and meaning it. BUT, I can also see me stewing inside, the whole time. And having to consistently remind myself that I told him to go.
As posted previously, I would take a hard look at the situation. If it would only cost say an additional $500 to take your wife along, and the money is not there for her, I would wait. The FIRST time something goes wrong in your house, like say the stove breaks, she's going to look at you with the look of "Well, had you not gone away, we could buy the self-cleaning stove"
I have been there and done that. Not fair to my hubby, I told him to go. Not fair to me, because this is the only time he listens.
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Pete (Mr. Marcia)
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All great opinions. Seems like his decision is made.
I heard a quote and it went something like this
"My dad always took us on a big family vacation every year even when he couldn't afford it...the memories were priceless...and the bills did get paid...but you can't get time or memories back".
I live more in the moment, cause tomorrow isn't guaranteed...but then having lost loved ones to a Car accident and pancreatic cancer can do that to one's perspective.
I would just book tickets for you and your wife and pack and put her on the plane...get the relatives to watch the kids...and enjoy the surprise(although our kids would kill us if we went to STJ without them)
Tell her you have a special weekend getaway...hehe.
And I could never go without my wife!!!(in case she's reading this)
I heard a quote and it went something like this
"My dad always took us on a big family vacation every year even when he couldn't afford it...the memories were priceless...and the bills did get paid...but you can't get time or memories back".
I live more in the moment, cause tomorrow isn't guaranteed...but then having lost loved ones to a Car accident and pancreatic cancer can do that to one's perspective.
I would just book tickets for you and your wife and pack and put her on the plane...get the relatives to watch the kids...and enjoy the surprise(although our kids would kill us if we went to STJ without them)
Tell her you have a special weekend getaway...hehe.
And I could never go without my wife!!!(in case she's reading this)
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Boston Mike
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one last note...
One thing I would like to add,my wife would have let me go,but she would have been disapointed.Would the relationship go on??Yes I think so.But if was to have asked my mother to go instead...I would be a dead man! 
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