This pregnancy thing is boring

PA Girl · Post by **PA Girl** » Tue Nov 24, 2009 3:22 pm

alw1977, I get it and the end wasn't even that bad for me.

The sleep now before the baby comes? Ha!

I was sleeping two, maybe three hours a night prior to his arrival. It was torture. The drs. wanted me to take drugs and (foolishly, maybe) I refused.

After he was born, the two or three hours I got between feastings felt like pure heaven. I may be the only woman on earth who felt better rested after the baby arrived!

I didn't love being pregnant, physically and mentally I was off. My friends laughed at me when I made the comment (at around 7 months) that the worst day off parenting couldn't compare to the worst day pregnant.

To this day, four years later, I still haven't had a day worse than many of the days being pregnant.

The memories do fade.

Nic in KC · Post by **Nic in KC** » Tue Nov 24, 2009 5:28 pm

I'm not trying to be snotty so please don't think I am, but since I have already spent thousands trying to be where you are, I would give anything to have the misery of the last few weeks of pregnancy instead of the misery of infertility with no trip to St. John in the works because all our money is being saved for more treatment or adoption.

melwill530 · Post by **melwill530** » Tue Nov 24, 2009 5:57 pm

I will not fault you for complaining. I was not one of those pregnant people who just "loved every moment of being pregnant- including the throwing up!" (Yes a quote from someone) Of course I went through 2 July's pregnant in the south! I love my babies well worth it but I agree it wasn't the most exciting 9 months of my life. I ended up having to have a Csection and my husband asked me if I felt like I missed out on anything. I labored 10 hours before they decided that I wasn't gonna dilate- no I didn't miss anything. Baby's head was in my hip area and wasn't gonna go the right way anyway. I definately don't miss the being pregnant part. I do miss sleep. Since the second pregnancy came a few short months after the 1st's 1st birthday (surprise- Wasn't Mardi Gras fun honey?) I haven't had very much rest at all. God bless all you who are in the tedious process of adoption and fertility treatments. I luckily didn't have to do either. We did not think we were able to conceive but 13 years later, I became an old and surprised mother. God blesses you in mysterious ways. Best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy. (But I do miss the islands, its been 4 years).

chicagoans · Post by **chicagoans** » Tue Nov 24, 2009 6:09 pm

Congrats to you! And yeah, it's fine to complain. We all know you wouldn't trade it for the world. (Well, most of the time.)

My second (of two) was born 11 years ago today! Woo hoo! 10 days late and almost 10 pounds - my little chunkamunk is now a tall and lean 11 year old. How did that happen?

Both my kids were late and luckily I felt great right up until the very end. Got my Christmas wrapping done while in labor with #2. (Don't believe anyone who says "it's not really a contraction if you can talk through it." Yep, I was talking, so I ignored the contractions, and he was almost born in the car because I waited so long!)

I think my only complaint is that the hips stayed but the big boobs disappeared again. sigh.

XOXO · Post by **XOXO** » Tue Nov 24, 2009 6:32 pm

Please no horror delivery stories for ALW. When I was pregnant I was shocked by how many women would congratulate me and follow it with their horrible horrible stories.

So, ALW with both of my boys the telltale sign that I was going to deliver was cleaning. Even before the first contraction I got into a cleaning spell. Apparently, I was nesting.

nic in KC: is it easy to understand that you are frustrated. I will pray that you get your little miracle too.

Keep us posted ALW.

GG

sherban · Post by **sherban** » Tue Nov 24, 2009 6:40 pm

That's funny...you are a riot...glad you still have your sense of humor...

Being a man, my perspective is different but hey...it doesn't happen without us...

First off, I truly have admiration and respect for what a woman goes through to have a child...wow...all the physical changes and related hormonal/meantal changes.....uh...am I on thin ice yet? All men should be appreciative and humbled...and mostly glad we can observe from "outside"...haha.

A couple funny stories----
When my wife was preg the first time I followed all the rules...did Lama's..etc. then I was there to help my wife through the delivery by watchiung the contraction monitor and "coaching my wife"...well the nurse (bitch) took the monitoring strap off and I couldn't see the contractions coming and I got all in a tizz...the nurse said "don't worry about it"...I blew my stack...I HAD a JOB to DO! Well... we got through that delivery and it was aa great experience and my son was a perfect baby...cute, calm, etc...what a joy...really.
I remember when he got a case of jaundice and turned yellow...I lovingly called him "ole yeller"...again- we made it through. We could take him to a restaurant in the baby carrier and set him on the table and he would just look around for hours while we had dinner and beers...not my daughter!
...She was our second...almost delivered that one in the Hospital parking lot...I guess they come easier as you progress....my daughter was born in less than ten minutes after my wife hit the bed in the hospital (results may vary!). My daughter was not calm and quiet she was colicky and cranky for six months straight...uggh!
Women and mothers are the heroes of this world...bitch all you want...you WILL earn it!
Peace-

cypressgirl · Post by **cypressgirl** » Tue Nov 24, 2009 7:40 pm

sailorgirl wrote:Hmmm... wait until she/he is a teenager and then we can talk about real pain.

OMG...how true.

I never liked being pregnant though, and can totally relate. I was 4 weeks LATE with my first. I never thought I'd weigh less than my husband again.

cocosmom · Post by **cocosmom** » Tue Nov 24, 2009 7:50 pm

This is the time to compalin & actually get sympathy. Once the guys see you give birth, they will think you are a hero!!! They would never do it LOL. 29 years later I am listening to my newly pregnant daughter and I LOVE it! Love all the complaints and excitement...brings back lots of memories.

*Sunnie* · Post by ***Sunnie*** » Wed Nov 25, 2009 7:43 am

oof, pregnancy... i'm 26 and can't imagine getting pregger's at this point in my life. i'm not ready to leave the party just yet! i told my parents if i squirt one out any time soon they're getting it for the first year and i'll take it back once it turns 1 year old.

i'm kidding... kinda... hehe! i am.

all joking aside, congrats on the baby! i have a blast playing with all my little cousins - they're so much fun!! plus, all my friends who have children say it's the greatest thing life has to offer. best of luck!!

PA Girl · Post by **PA Girl** » Wed Nov 25, 2009 9:20 am

Like Sherban, we had a "bucket" baby (and yellow too) that we hauled all over. One of our favorite things that first winter was to have weekly brunch at this fantastic restaurant two towns over. He would sit there all cute and cuddly in his carrier and his father and I would toast our good fortune. It was like a second honeymoon.

As he grew, the chef would fix him little plates of age-appropriate finger food.

And then he turned 3. His restaurant behavior is not what it used to be but we are working on that...

9 months old on STJ will be a great time.

hoosierdaddy · Post by **hoosierdaddy** » Wed Nov 25, 2009 9:59 am

Congratulation
I second what Sherban said. Being a man I cannot imagine what women go through for. You know the old joke, "If men were the ones having babies we would be extinct." I see women at the hospital everyday and am amased how they can smile after what looks like a tramatic event. I would love to know how a man would act just a few hours after delivery.

flip-flop · Post by **flip-flop** » Wed Nov 25, 2009 10:19 am

I speak from experience when I say a boring pregnancy is a good pregnancy. Trust me when I say YOU DO NOT WANT an interesting one! PROMISE.

I long a bit for a blissful, movie version of pregnancy because both of my were infused with too much confusion, worry and medical intervention...the end makes it all worth it though!

That said, due to complications, both of my babies came at least 2 weeks early. Not too early but early enough for me to not get REALLY miserable. I don't know how those women who go 2 weeks past their due date manage!

Hang in there, prop your feet up and make your hubby wait on you!

sailorgirl · Post by **sailorgirl** » Wed Nov 25, 2009 10:33 am

sherban wrote:That's funny...you are a riot...glad you still have your sense of humor...

Being a man, my perspective is different but hey...it doesn't happen without us...

First off, I truly have admiration and respect for what a woman goes through to have a child...wow...all the physical changes and related hormonal/meantal changes.....uh...am I on thin ice yet? All men should be appreciative and humbled...and mostly glad we can observe from "outside"...haha.

A couple funny stories----
When my wife was preg the first time I followed all the rules...did Lama's..etc. then I was there to help my wife through the delivery by watchiung the contraction monitor and "coaching my wife"...well the nurse (bitch) took the monitoring strap off and I couldn't see the contractions coming and I got all in a tizz...the nurse said "don't worry about it"...I blew my stack...I HAD a JOB to DO! Well... we got through that delivery and it was aa great experience and my son was a perfect baby...cute, calm, etc...what a joy...really.
I remember when he got a case of jaundice and turned yellow...I lovingly called him "ole yeller"...again- we made it through. We could take him to a restaurant in the baby carrier and set him on the table and he would just look around for hours while we had dinner and beers...not my daughter!
...She was our second...almost delivered that one in the Hospital parking lot...I guess they come easier as you progress....my daughter was born in less than ten minutes after my wife hit the bed in the hospital (results may vary!). My daughter was not calm and quiet she was colicky and cranky for six months straight...uggh!
Women and mothers are the heroes of this world...bitch all you want...you WILL earn it!
Peace-

That's a good looking family

alw1977 · Post by **alw1977** » Wed Nov 25, 2009 9:13 pm

Thanks to everyone for your kind words. I know I am far from alone in my experiences of discomfort (not to mention two major holidays sans alcohol), but sometimes it's nice to complain. Ultimately I am really excited, and the waiting makes this last few weeks even more difficult.

Anyway, we're really excited, and I hope that the rest of this pregnancy is as boring as the first 34.5 weeks, though I have a sneaking suspicion my gallbladder is acting up...

sherban · Post by **sherban** » Thu Nov 26, 2009 7:56 pm

Sailorgirl- thanks for the kind compliment. I posted the picture to prove that we made it through all the early years...though it wasn't all easy...I think we almost divorced a half a dozen times...at least. Multiple little kids can be a tad bit trying at times.

(If we can make it...anyone can!)

Raising kids for dummies-

First year- wiping mouth/butt and feeding and trying to keep them from drowing/suffocating while enjoing their smell and heartbeat and cuteness.

Yrs 1-5- Learn to walk/talk and train them to be good while being entertained by their cuteness and innocence. and lots of plastic toys...uggh.

Yrs 6-12- Learn to ride bike and do homework and become addicted to the TV/computer...start to exercise intellect and logic and begin the eternal power struggle. You START learning from them already...!

Yrs 12-18....we'll see!
Peace

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