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facebook-should I or shouldnt I?
facebook-should I or shouldnt I?
How many of you guys are on it? How much time of yours does it monopolize?
I have a very addictive personality. Let's just get that out in the open. I am worried I will spend even more time on the computer!
My husband was floored when he just signed up and within 3 days, 80 people he knew got in touch with him.
Question to women-I overheard someone talking somewhere about facebook and she was saying that she gets messages like "3 people on facebook hate you." find out who they are, stuff like that.
Does that really go on?
I am not sure I want to get into that. I am not sure if anyone hates me but I know enough people that someone probably does. UGH.
If you are on facebook, are you glad, or do you just wish it never happened?
I have a very addictive personality. Let's just get that out in the open. I am worried I will spend even more time on the computer!
My husband was floored when he just signed up and within 3 days, 80 people he knew got in touch with him.
Question to women-I overheard someone talking somewhere about facebook and she was saying that she gets messages like "3 people on facebook hate you." find out who they are, stuff like that.
Does that really go on?
I am not sure I want to get into that. I am not sure if anyone hates me but I know enough people that someone probably does. UGH.
If you are on facebook, are you glad, or do you just wish it never happened?
"Sponges grow in the ocean...I wonder how much deeper it would be if that didn't happen."
I signed up not knowing what it was and now wish I hadn't. The whole concept of "writing on someone's wall" is strange. Everyone can read what you write and I find it very impersonal. You may post something thinking someone won't see it but they may have a friend in common with someone else and they can then tell that person. It can bite you in the a**. So if you do it be careful what you say.
If I want to email someone I send it directly to them. My feeling is if I wanted to stay in touch with those high school/college friends I would have..
If I want to email someone I send it directly to them. My feeling is if I wanted to stay in touch with those high school/college friends I would have..
I think your experience on FB can be fairly well tied to how selective you are about your "friends" ... I get a lot of friend of friend requests and I just ignore them. It is a wonderful tool for finding and keeping in touch with people you otherwise wouldn't be able to easily - my college roommate from freshman year, old coworkers, high school friends.
Just be selective and ignore all the "spam" like messages and it can be a lot of fun.
Just be selective and ignore all the "spam" like messages and it can be a lot of fun.
Facebook is really cool in that you will definately find a lot of people you know. It can be very addictive at first, but I found the novelty wore off pretty fast.
I would avoid using a lot of "apps", it leads to bunch of crap messages that keep you wasting time on Facebook. You'll also spend a fair amount of time deleting all the annoying apps you approved because a friend sent them to you. The more you engage in using the "app", the more it encourages people to send you more.
I would avoid using a lot of "apps", it leads to bunch of crap messages that keep you wasting time on Facebook. You'll also spend a fair amount of time deleting all the annoying apps you approved because a friend sent them to you. The more you engage in using the "app", the more it encourages people to send you more.
I use Facebook and I don't have any issues with it. You can set your privacy settings to allow only your friends to see stuff. You can block people if you find that necessary.
I have two children in college and it's a nice way to keep up with them. I often chat with them directly in real time through Facebook. I unexpectedly have reconnected with some old friends and it's been absolutely wonderful!!
bevm - you can deactivate your account if you don't want it any more.
I have two children in college and it's a nice way to keep up with them. I often chat with them directly in real time through Facebook. I unexpectedly have reconnected with some old friends and it's been absolutely wonderful!!
bevm - you can deactivate your account if you don't want it any more.
Flip~
I agree. I don't have many friends on FB but I do have one friend request that I am ignoring.
It is a fun way to keep track of doings of friends, kids, etc. I wouldn't post anything personal on FB.
I chatted on FB this weekend with the lady that introduced me to my husband fifty years ago next month!
I agree. I don't have many friends on FB but I do have one friend request that I am ignoring.
It is a fun way to keep track of doings of friends, kids, etc. I wouldn't post anything personal on FB.
I chatted on FB this weekend with the lady that introduced me to my husband fifty years ago next month!
I use FB and I love being able to keep up with my friends all at one spot. I agree with what Bev said in that I really don't want a bunch of people I don't talk to anymore seeing my daily stuff so I just don't befriend them. If I didnt talk to you before FB than I ain't talking to you on FB 
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Bug
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Bug
This is great advice.
So if someone wants to be my friend and asks-do I have to hit "NO"?
That sounds mean. I am such a wimp.
I am specifically thinking of some guys from high school. Really nice guys but maybe if I befriended them they would stalk me a bit? I had a few strange emails around the time of my 20th HS reunion. The kind of emails like "are you happily married?"
I don't want to hurt someone's feelings but I don't want someone bugging me.
Or do they just not know for sure if you got the request? (they know, but they don't know for SURE, so it's not a rejection outright)
Just trying to think this through before I get on it and make friends with the world!
That would be easy to do and then regret it.
So if someone wants to be my friend and asks-do I have to hit "NO"?
That sounds mean. I am such a wimp.
I am specifically thinking of some guys from high school. Really nice guys but maybe if I befriended them they would stalk me a bit? I had a few strange emails around the time of my 20th HS reunion. The kind of emails like "are you happily married?"
I don't want to hurt someone's feelings but I don't want someone bugging me.
Or do they just not know for sure if you got the request? (they know, but they don't know for SURE, so it's not a rejection outright)
Just trying to think this through before I get on it and make friends with the world!
That would be easy to do and then regret it."Sponges grow in the ocean...I wonder how much deeper it would be if that didn't happen."
I like it. You just have to know what you are doing. If you write something on someone's wall realize that anyone can read it. You can send a PM if you want just that person to see it. There are a lot of adds that you don't want to click on. Ignore them.
It can be addicting and there are times that I stay on there a lot longer than I want to. A lot of forumites are on there!
It can be addicting and there are times that I stay on there a lot longer than I want to. A lot of forumites are on there!
I have a facebook because my friends left Myspace and told me I have to have one. I have run into lots of old friends I'd lost touch with. In fact today, I saw a very grown-up picture of a little boy I used to babysit when he was just born. Mostly facebook reminds me that I'm old.
It's nice to connect with people, but I am by no means obsessed with it. I check it when my e-mail tells me I have a new message or something like that. I don't solicit people to be my friends because I don't deal well with rejection, especially when it comes from someone I used to be close with. But if I know someone and they ask to be my friend, I approve them as long as we are/were friends in real life or from somewhere like here. I don't approve strangers.
I haven't added any of that "your friend gave you a drink" and stuff like, mostly because I don't know how.
It can't hurt to sign up, and if you don't like it you can always delete it.
It's nice to connect with people, but I am by no means obsessed with it. I check it when my e-mail tells me I have a new message or something like that. I don't solicit people to be my friends because I don't deal well with rejection, especially when it comes from someone I used to be close with. But if I know someone and they ask to be my friend, I approve them as long as we are/were friends in real life or from somewhere like here. I don't approve strangers.
I haven't added any of that "your friend gave you a drink" and stuff like, mostly because I don't know how.
It can't hurt to sign up, and if you don't like it you can always delete it.
I recently joined facebook, mostly to get access to my sister's videos of her kids. My only quibble with it so far is that I have gotten some friend requests from people whose names I don't recognize. I'm sure they are requests from people I "know" from online, but I don't necessarily know them by their real name, only their username...it can be confusing. I wish people would add a little identifying note along with their friend requests, because I won't approve anyone I don't know.
It's like looking in your soup and finding a whole different alphabet.
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Teresa_Rae
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I recently joined Facebook after being pressured by friends. When you first get on it will probably seem overwhelming and you’ll spend a lot of time looking at stuff. But after about a week the novelty will wear off and you’ll probably spend a max of 5 minutes a day there. I was weary of joining but my friends convinced me that it would shrink to a 5-minute-a-day habit so I joined. It hasn’t been very long and I’m down to checking every other day or so.
I think the "find out who hates you" messages are just SPAM. I’ve gotten ones that say "find out who has a crush on you" and I’m sure they’re SPAM too. I just ignore them.
If someone sends you a friend request that you don’t want to be friends with, you can just not answer either way. Then when that person looks you up it will still say "Friend Requested." If you say no and that person looks you up it will give him or her the opportunity to "friend" you again, which is how he/she will know that you denied the friend request. I just looked this up the other day because I got a friend request from someone I don’t trust with personal information (you might say she has a colored past)...but I also don’t want to offend her, so I just haven’t said yes or no.
I think the "find out who hates you" messages are just SPAM. I’ve gotten ones that say "find out who has a crush on you" and I’m sure they’re SPAM too. I just ignore them.
If someone sends you a friend request that you don’t want to be friends with, you can just not answer either way. Then when that person looks you up it will still say "Friend Requested." If you say no and that person looks you up it will give him or her the opportunity to "friend" you again, which is how he/she will know that you denied the friend request. I just looked this up the other day because I got a friend request from someone I don’t trust with personal information (you might say she has a colored past)...but I also don’t want to offend her, so I just haven’t said yes or no.
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California Girl
I resisted Facebook for a long time but finally joined when a good friend of mine finally got on it. Some people from High School have found me, and like Bev said, if I had wanted to stay in touch with them, I would have. One guy, who I had a crush on in H.S. turned out to be a weirdo, so now I "ignore" some requests. I'm also very careful about what I post that the whole world can see.
Some of the apps seem really silly to me, so although I started out participating in a lot of them, I mostly ignore them, too, as playing with them generates even more.
I like a couple of the games, I like seeing people's pictures, but I really don't care about having an hourly report on what everyone's doing.
On those "3 people hate you" things... I've seen that at the top of a lot of pages. None that say "hate you", but ones that say "have a crush on you" or "are smarter than you are". Those are just bogus to get you to play some game that costs you money. I ignore those.
Some of the apps seem really silly to me, so although I started out participating in a lot of them, I mostly ignore them, too, as playing with them generates even more.
I like a couple of the games, I like seeing people's pictures, but I really don't care about having an hourly report on what everyone's doing.
On those "3 people hate you" things... I've seen that at the top of a lot of pages. None that say "hate you", but ones that say "have a crush on you" or "are smarter than you are". Those are just bogus to get you to play some game that costs you money. I ignore those.