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Hi Flip -

I lost my mom when I was 13 and wish I had more time to spend with her. I was wondering if you know any of your friend's mom's friends or relatives (does that make sense?!).

This might take some time, but maybe you could get some of them to write down their favorite memories of your friend's mom so that she can read about her mom in a different way.

I once had a book of memories made up for my stepmother and we left several pages at the end. Your friend could add her own special memories to the book when she is up to it. I think when we lose someone, the memories we have of them begin to fade, this would give her some comfort when she needs her mom - don't we all at some point?!

Tracy

Tracy, I lost my mom when I was 12 and feel like you do - I only knew her as a child knows their mom, not like an adult comes to.

I think your idea is wonderful and wish I had a book like that. "Hey, there was this one time we cut school and roadtripped..." or "She had such a crush on _____ in high school" or "I'll never forget the day she called to tell me she was pregnant with you" or "You'll probably never believe this but your mom used to..." or "Oy, you should have seen it the year she burned the turkey" I don't think I'd ever get tired of reading that.

Thanks for the ideas. They are GREAT.

Chickadee- questions like yours are one of the reasons I started a blog which is mostly about my kids (with some other current events/commentary thrown in). It is sort of like an open journal to my kids.

I am lucky to still have my mom but if you don't get some of these things down as they are happening you'll never remember them in the hussle and bussle of life. If I dropped dead tomorrow, I would want my kids to be able to have a sense of who I was and how I felt about them. There is no better way to do that than in my own words.

Thanks guys...I have a good list of ways to help her.