Yes, to the first part, no to the second--that is, yes, you should be respectful, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't go there. Just remember it's a family home, and a very personal one, because of the deep ties these people have to this place. A little good manners go a looooong way.

So-- there are two women who live on Gibney beach. One is a Gibney by birth, one by marriage, and certainly no relatives of the Oppenheimers. The are both in their 50's and neither one of them smoke (at least not tobacco). Neither of them is likely to have been sitting out on the beach in the mornin...