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LOL! Sorry, my honey seems to develop an alergic reaction to traveling in the form of a very bad attitude directly upon departure. These brain hives seem to last for 3 or so days and then he turns back to his sweet (well kinda) self.

The reason I was concerned about this is because with the kids, there is sort of a buffer. I can take off with my daughter and leave him to his sarcastic traveling self.

This traveling allergy is also contagious. A person can only take so much before she succumbs to the allergy in an angry defense mode.

I'm seriously jealous if nobody else has to deal with this. I've been hoping for a miracle pill for years! Nothing helps except time.

Interesting. Pete was telling me about your post and I suggested that you needed the kids as a buffer. This is not good.

You are not afraid to leave the kids at home, you are afraid to leave on a vacation with just your husband.

This is a whole 'nuther issue.

Hummm...

Yikes! Run away! Run away! (This cannot end well)

Go and enjoy yourself without the kids. They will still be there, with hands out, when you get home.

I left my youngest with my husband to go with my best friend to the Cayman Islands when she was 7 months old and my older daughter was 5 years old. He forgot he was suppose to feed the baby the first day, but they all lived and I had a ball. They are now 15 and 20.

I have been taking trips with and without the kids and/or husband ever since. It's what keeps me sane.

I'm sure you deserve the time alone. That is, if you want it.

We have a family Spring Break trip planned to STJ. That's the one I'm worried about.

Marcia (Mrs. Pete) wrote:You are not afraid to leave the kids at home, you are afraid to leave on a vacation with just your husband....

Perhaps it's a little of both but my kids are my main concern. Don't get me wrong. Honey can be a total a$$ but he is also the sweetest man imaginable and he loves me. I think this is just something big and new and alien. I'm a creature of habit and this is a little out of my comfort zone.

I'm sure once I'm there with a drink in my hand and the sun on my face, I'll be fine. The kids are even telling us to "go and have fun."

I will have fun. I will have fun. I will, I will.

cypressgirl wrote:Go and enjoy yourself without the kids. They will still be there, with hands out, when you get home.

Boy did you get that right!

We have a family Spring Break trip planned to STJ. That's the one I'm worried about.

Too funny!

Our kids are 3 and 1 and we have actually not traveled WITH them yet, but have taken 2 vacas without them.

I LOVED our vacations alone. They really gave us a chance to be our selves, to remember what/who we are as spouses and individual people, to escape the 24/7 mantle of parenthood. This is very good for our marriage and for us as people.

I very much look forward to trips with the kids too, probably starting in 2010 or so when they're both old enough to have a good time no matter where we decide to go - new adventures, watching them see things for the first time, explaining new things to them (my 3 year old asks the funniest questions!!).

That said, as to your hubby's travel allergy... is there any way you guys can figure out why this happens to him and take some preventative measures? Failing that, make sure to get some time to yourself to get away from the bad vibes. There's no reason you have to be sucked into that vortex of nastiness. Tell him ahead that you're just going to let him get past it on his own, in his own time, in his own way, but that you're not going to suffer while he does it - you're going to go and have a good time without him and he's welcome to join you when he's ready. (You're probably already booked, but maybe you guys could even travel separately on the way down. You go earlier, do the villa rep/car rental/villa tour/grocery shopping thing so he doesn't have to, then just pick him up at the ferry dock later?)

As far as contact with home while on a 10 day cruise - - my blackberry/phone did work while we were at port (which is on average once/day) - - although the roaming charges on most islands are INSANE. While at sea, you can use the phones on the boat although keep it short since the charges are equally INSANE.

You'll be fine - - it will be good for you and your marriage. Hubby is right - - when the kids are grown and gone, it will be just you two. Invest your time wisely now so that there is a "you two" years from now! Just like the flight attendants tell you before you lift off - - you have to secure your own air mask before you secure that of your children or others. It's not selfish - - just common sense to take care of yourself FIRST and foremost!