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Teenagers are hard to deal with but at least you have some control and get to see your kids.

I have a 21 year old is gainfully employed and moved out of the house 6 months ago because he decided our few rules and his lack of privacy was terrible.
During the last 6 months he has gotten 2 speeding tickets, two tatoos, a girlfriend that is bad news and borrowed $3500 from a neighbor for a used truck and has failed to pay back the loan which cause the neighbor to call us to tell us about it. There is no telling what else has gone on that we don't know about.

Sometimes I think it was easier when he lived at home and kept me awake at night wondering what is going on.

Hopefully he will mature and see the light SOON !!!!

So, hug and kiss your teenagers while you can.

Jo Ann

Okay Jo Ann, you're really scaring me now............ oh and btw, here's a (((hug))) for you! Ali~

More ((hugs)) for JoAnn.

oh my! This thread is a hoot! Mine are only 11 and almost 9, and I'm only starting to see glimmers of the pre-teen attitude in the 11 year old. (She suddenly likes to "shop", after 10+ years of not caring at all what she wore. After an hour trying on zillions of clothes at a tween store we finally purchased... one headband and one tube of lip balm.)

My nephew is a senior in high school. Great kid, athlete, top tier in his class, involved in church, blah blah blah. My sister called 2 weeks ago, shaken up, to ask what our parents said to me at age 16 when I crashed their new car. I asked "Why, what's going on?" She said "As far as I can tell, he and his dad's new car are both in someone's back yard right now."

Luckily, no one was hurt, and the people whose fence he demolished en route to their back yard were so nice. Best line was from the man of the house: "We'd love to see you again, but next time use the front door instead."

chicagoans wrote:oh my! This thread is a hoot! Mine are only 11 and almost 9, and I'm only starting to see glimmers of the pre-teen attitude in the 11 year old. (She suddenly likes to "shop", after 10+ years of not caring at all what she wore. After an hour trying on zillions of clothes at a tween store we finally purchased... one headband and one tube of lip balm.)

My nephew is a senior in high school. Great kid, athlete, top tier in his class, involved in church, blah blah blah. My sister called 2 weeks ago, shaken up, to ask what our parents said to me at age 16 when I crashed their new car. I asked "Why, what's going on?" She said "As far as I can tell, he and his dad's new car are both in someone's back yard right now."

Luckily, no one was hurt, and the people whose fence he demolished en route to their back yard were so nice. Best line was from the man of the house: "We'd love to see you again, but next time use the front door instead."

Oh boy was he lucky! LOVE that guy

That's what I love about this forum, support comes in unexpected ways! My story is marrying a man with a 15 and 17 yo, now 17 & 19. I went from blissfully single to the wicked step monster in one fell swoop. Its been a real experience so far. Soemtimes the best you can do is hold on and pray that nothing really bad happens. What gets me through it is the thought that one day we will look back at this time and laugh....

or not

teens, can't live with them.. can't kill them

Don't even talk to us about teen-agers. Four of 'em here. We have a daughter turning 17 on Friday, a son who is 15, another daughter who is 15 and another daughter who is 12. Yes, you read that right.
17, 15, 15, 12
The worst is that there is only one boy.
Boys are easier.
Girls are slobs.

Do you have any idea how much:

Toilet paper we go through with five women in this house?
Food we need to keep on hand for a 15 year old son? And 5 others.
Laundry can pile up in a day? (Does it count if the kid, always a girl, takes the clean clothes that are still piled on the floor from last week and throws them into the laundry again?)
Energy is wasted on all of the hair equipment? (I kid you not, we have straighteners, curlers, curling irons, blow dryers, oh...all the while, the music is blasting in the bathroom). We finally blew a fuse the other day.)

Or, How many:
Activities we have to attend? Swim meets, soccer games, basketball games, choir concerts, crew, musicals, achievement award ceremonies, practices for all of the above?
Times you hear a siren and hope your child isn't in the car or a part of whatever is causing the sirens?
Gray hairs I am getting?


Sometimes, even though we love them all to death, we need to GET AWAY.

And that, my friends, it what St. John is all about to us.

I'm with you Marcia. STJ is for me and hubby ONLY!!

XOXO
Bug

And if you live long enough...they are 33, 31 and 27 and are delighted to join you on a trip to STJ and even pay for dinner out or cook a meal at the villa...actually act human.... and you forget those awful teen years just like you forget childbirth....

Maintain hope --they grow up, they actually think you are a worthwhile human being,want to spend time with you, might even thank you for parenting them and think you know something and support themselves!

My 24 y.o. says that I got a lot smarter in the last 7 years!

I actually tried to find a forum for parents of teens.
Here is good.
Bug we will have so much to talk about!
Nooooooo, we aren't going to dwell on the kids.

One consolation for those of you with boys.
So far, so good and he is 12 1/2.
When my daughter was 12 1/2 it was he#$. I could write a book. At 16, she is better, but we have our moments and she DOES know it all. Boyfriend troubles are the worst thing now.

B-as-u-r - Better a piercing than a tattoo - piercings will close when they decide it was a "bad idea".

I am incredibly lucky to have a wonderful 17 year old daughter who is afraid of needles!! She just got her ears pierced last year!! As of now, she is a great kid. When we were on STJ last year, she told my cousin that I "was her best friend, and she just loved hanging out with me". How lucky am I!! I pretty much knock wood every day.

Of course, when she goes off to college in 09, I am sure I will just fall apart!

bugblu98 wrote: How did all you folks that have older children get through those late teen years? My almost 17 year old knows everything, can do everything, and needs no one. Sometimes I wonder how the heck I'm going to survive to raise the younger one (she's only 4)!

XOXO
Bug

Bug....I have a 28 year old and you just described her above!!!

Good luck, they do grow up fast and I miss those younger years.

[quote="Marcia (Mrs. Pete)"]Don't even talk to us about teen-agers. Four of 'em here. We have a daughter turning 17 on Friday, a son who is 15, another daughter who is 15 and another daughter who is 12. Yes, you read that right.
17, 15, 15, 12
The worst is that there is only one boy.
Boys are easier.
Girls are slobs.

Do you have any idea how much:

Toilet paper we go through with five women in this house?
quote]

Marcia - I hear you on the TP. I live with 4 women and when the toilet paper runs out, I'm the one that hears about it. Not to pry, but 3 daughters plus yourself = 4 women, who is the 5th? Sometimes I feel like I'm the 5th at my house...

Hi everyone,
Just thought I would give you some hope ... I had the wear only black, won't tell you anything 16 yr old with the 20 yr old boyfriend .... and she has grown into the most wonderfull wife and mother and women.

Have a great day!!!