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Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 4:07 pm
by tipsy
So sorry for the bad experience. Hopefully you might get another chance to go back soon and put the bad things behind you. You need it..

Am still praying for your brother & all of you, really feel for you all that he's not doing so well. Try to hang in there.

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 4:17 pm
by liamsaunt
Jim, wow, I am so sorry that you did not have a nice time! I was cringing while reading your post. I think that some people are just not a good fit, personality-wise, to rent a self-catering home for their vacations...they really need to stay at a hotel, where they can have maid service. Though you say you've been down there with them before, so that's kind of odd.

My advice is to start to think about planning a trip down for just you and Amy. Erase the bad memories of your tension filled trip, and make new, happier ones with just the two of you.

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 4:19 pm
by ifloat
You are dead on right. Those people acted like jerks.

Other than my husband and two daughters, I can't think of anyone I would want to share a vacation with.

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 4:28 pm
by Margy Z
Are they still married? I think so, but we don’t see them any longer – this trip was the straw. We did try to talk to them about putting aside whatever was going on that was making for so much unhappiness in such a beautiful place. He insisted it would blow over, she just continued to sulk. Her sulking made him surly – on and on. They brought the problem from home - there were ongoing issues between her and his family, especially his sister (perceived slights, jealousies), and I think there had been a blow-up right before the trip. I had worked with and been friendly with his sister long before we became close with them as a couple so I think we may have been tarred with the same brush or however the saying goes. We had been doing our best not to get sucked in to their drama – we declined to take sides – that seemed to be our sin – lol – she had always been upset that we would not support her unconditionally and I suspect it was the same situation with her husband. All very juvenile – bah, life’s too short to expend so much energy on negative crap.

Didn’t mean to hijack your rant here, Jim. If you want to salvage the relationship, I sure hope you can do so. People can be so weird – just when you think you know them, they up and surprise you and, unfortunately, it’s not always a good surprise. I don’t blame you for steaming at their sense of entitlement and their bad behavior – it was everyone’s vacation and it sounds like you bent over backwards to try to make things good for all concerned – and that’s a lot of stress.

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 4:38 pm
by toni
Ugh, what a vacation spoiler! When all you wanted was some stress free time and look what you got. Well, it does help to vent-lets the steam out of the old stress-o-meter. Too bad though for you guys-I'd definitely reconsider the best friend thing though-think they'd have been a little more receptive to your concerns especially considering some of the stuff that's been going on in your life. But if you travelled with them before, what happened to change things?

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 4:41 pm
by mindehankins
Awwww, Jimmy! I'm so sorry to hear that anything happened to put a cloud over the vacation you guys needed so badly. Every time I looked at the Spicecam, I thought of you guys and hoped you were having the time of your life.
Next trip! And you'll be getting married on that trip, too, right?

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 4:49 pm
by swoop
Feel for you...went with my "best friends" last April..and needless to say, it was a nightmare. Knew they were having problems, but they had a major blowout one night in the middle of the week and he just sulked the rest of the trip and was basically an A-Hole to everyone. Me and my wife didn't let it ruin our vacation, but I'm more inclined to go without other couples from now on.

Haven't spoken to him since we came back, BTW.

Looking forward to our first solo trip this April!

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 4:51 pm
by Diana2
That's a bummer. That would be the last trip I ever took with them. We have had bad trips with other couples in the past and have found that there a very few people whom we want to vacation with. I'd cross them off my list and be done with it.

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 4:54 pm
by Wanda Creech
Jimmy,

Sorry things were not as good as they could have been,
but how did you like Sago Palms ?
Hopefully there were some fun times on your trip.
Are we going to get a trip report?

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 5:00 pm
by lazylane
your "friends" clearly don't get it.....sad, so sad.

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 5:01 pm
by mahojim
Wanda-
You were right on the $ as far as S.P. !
It was breathtaking, and those delicious views were some of the best I've seen out of all of the villas I've been to over the years.
TR soon come...-
as well as another ticker for 4/24-5/? , and hopefully more
Smiles!
MJ

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 5:15 pm
by loria
Wow, I am speechless--Can you calmly talk to your friend and ask why he was acting in such a way (or maybe it isn't worth it?) --
I am sorry that that stuff put a damper on your very much needed vacation.

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 5:15 pm
by SS in NC
Hi mahojim, Glad to hear you're planning another trip! On your next trip, leave "the baggage" at home...and enjoy this one the way you want to. Some people just can't be miserable alone...too bad. All the Best! Scott

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 5:17 pm
by MrB
mahojim wrote: as well as another ticker for 4/24-5/? , and hopefully more
Smiles!
MJ
for both you and Amy again? It was a shame we could not find you Sunday for the beach bar. We looked for you the rest of the week, but alas, we had no luck. maybe next trip.

Posted: Tue Nov 17, 2009 5:32 pm
by Wanda Creech
Jimmy,

So glad you loved Sago Palms. Can't wait to hear
the trip report.

I am jealous that you are already planning a trip
in April and we haven't even heard about this one.
June is a long way away for me.