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Linne, it's interesting that she was also in the banking business for 16 years. I like her very much as a person. We have similar family situtations and values. I just don't like the controlling side that I see on a daily basis. Even though we have lateral positions she likes to make sure that I have crossed my T's and dotted my I's on almost a daily basis. I have begun to light-heartedly tease her about this and she admits that it is her nature. I tell her I know this about her and leave it at that. I plan to go in on Monday and be the professional fun-loving person that I am and put it behind me. The ball is in her court. We have to ride together to a coastal work seminar later in the month and I hope we will be on good terms. Jorge, you and baby boy need to find that t-shirt for me! Thanks for all the good advice, forum friends. We are expecting snow this evening which is a rarity in good ole South Cac-a-la-ki, so perhaps tommorrow will be a stay-in day!

Don't even get me started on work. Some of you know that I hate it.

I work in real estate and for that last year, it's been tough. People have been testy, to say the least.

There's one girl who I thought I was friends with outside the office. Not anymore...

So, I just go in do my job, get out of there, have a beer and relax.

Folks...you cannot fix the problem without a change from the neck up.

Times will get worse and people will get more difficult before it all gets better. The situation is huge...beyond our control.

If you have a job, be thankful. If it's a hard situation, deal with it. Count your blessings with every pay check.

Work on one's self. It will help us all out of this very testy situation.

Okay, I'm off the "rock" now...

I have just read my earlier reply in this topic again, and perhaps I exaggerated a little about how I was. I think, I was influenced of my earlier visit today to an unhappy girlfriend. Her life has changed completely. Her husband has done some risky and complicated investments and had lost – not only all their savings (he is the one who earns the money), but they also need to sell their cottage and perhaps they need to sell their house and their cars too. Of course the husband is the guilty one, but it was his bank, which had encouraged him to do these investments without telling him what the consequences would be, if it went wrong. It was the same bank, where I had worked, and I was upset, because I felt that if you are dedicated to your job as a bank adviser - as I were -, you would have told him about the risk. I was in a way a control freak, and it was perhaps a sort of fear, but it was fear on behalf of the customers.

I of course think that you did the right thing, Greyhoundmom, and that your colleague shouldn’t behave as she did. As I see it, it’s not very important things, she wants to control. So it’s fine if you can change her, and fine that you still can be good friends. Monday she has perhaps already regretted her behaviour.

But none can make me think that it’s wrong to be dedicated to a job. For many years I loved my different jobs in the bank, found it so interesting to help and advice customers and also to educate other colleagues. That’s why I became dedicated. When I wasn’t dedicated anymore, I left the bank.

And in many jobs you need to be hysterical about control. I don’t want my doctor to make mistakes,
I hope that the pilot controls everything, before he starts, etc.

Linne

A thousand thank you's for listening to my angst! I went to work today, first half was quiet, second half more normal with some interaction and laughter. She seemed to make an effort to talk and I responded accordingly. Certainly not what it was but I think there is light down the road. As I said, she is a good person and I thought I read her pretty well but for whatever reason was shocked by all the anger. We are an office of two, neither one of us likes confrontation so I'll chalk it up as a lot of personal baggage going on that I don't know about and I'm the person she spends the most time with. Life is good, it is what it is and I'll deal with it as it comes! Thanks again for all the advice!
Jan-GHM